How Do I Uninvite Guests to My Wedding?
With the recent reduction in wedding numbers to 15 guests (NOT including venue staff or suppliers such as the photographer, videographer etc.) you may find yourself in the unenviable position of having to tell some of your guests that you are no longer able to accommodate them. If you’re one of the couples who’s been affected by this, I’m so sorry. Now to the hard part.
Here at Steven Rees Webb Photography, I understand how hard it is for couples to cut down on their guest list. It can be emotionally draining, and you’ll be worried about upsetting people the entire time. It is, however, something that may have to be done.
Once you’ve decided on who gets to go, you’ll be faced with how to tell them. That’s why I thought it would be helpful to put together the following tips. They’ll give you some ideas on how to soften the blow when uninviting guests to your wedding.
Call your guest over the phone and let them know precisely what’s going on. They may not even know about the current COVID regulations that are affecting your big day. This is much better than an impersonal message or email. Remember to also schedule some other form of a future meeting to help soften the blow, like tea, a house warming party or a hang out when it’s safe to do so. When done, let them know how much you wish they could be there and thank them for their understanding.
Not wanting people to come to your wedding and get sick is a legitimate enough reason. It would be best if you were firm no matter who is involved. Grandparents, for example, might feel like they’re obligated to show up for you no matter what. It’s up to you to worry about their health and say a firm no.
You can also suggest that they can attend your wedding virtually on that day. Find ways to include them in the celebration. One of those could be having them take one of the readings via ZOOM right from their home. It would be a lovely moment, and they still get to be involved.
Lay Emphasis on Rules
It is easier for people to accept a rule if it affects a group of people. For example, if one of the ways you intend to cut guests from your wedding is by cancelling plus ones and saying no children, let it apply to all. It would not be fair for a guest to show up and feel like they were the only one affected by this. Remember to emphasize the rules on places like your wedding website and your invites.
Don’t Let Yourself Be Guilt Tripped
Your wedding is a chance to celebrate with those most important to you. Don’t let yourself be played by any external politics or guilt. People’s expectations are not the rule to go by. Instead, focus on what makes you and your partner happy.
Your Wedding Is Precious
Your wedding is a momentous day in your life. This means that your celebrations should be joyful and have meaning. Cutting your guest list to just your closest loved ones will ensure just that. You can also have a small ceremony now and throw a big party much later when it’s safer. Just make sure that in the end, your happiness and that of your partner is paramount.
Here at Steven Rees Webb Photography, I treat every wedding as meaningful as possible. If you’re looking for an expert to handle your Cornish wedding photography, you’re in the right place. I would love to hear from you. Contact me today!